In Support of Suburban Singles
If I were in my 20s or 30s today, I think there’s a good chance I would never get married. Actually, there was a pretty strong contingent of people who knew me back when I was in my 20s who didn’t think I would get married then, either. But the whole dating thing — to the degree it still exists at all — just seems so much more difficult and complicated now. And as a father of four grown daughters, more than a bit scary, as well.
In theory, technology should be making meeting and getting to know others easier. With the ubiquity of cell phones and social media, we can be in touch with hundreds or even thousands of “friends” with just a few taps of our fingers. Unfortunately, the whole focus of our increasingly social media-driven world seems to be on the quantity rather than quality of relationships. That would not seem to be very conducive to finding someone you can trust to walk your dog when you are out of town, much less finding a life partner.
So while editing our cover feature, “Single in Suburbia” by Jay Copp on page 30, I felt a great deal of empathy for today’s single folks. While never easy, meeting quality people with similar values seems as difficult as ever. That is perhaps all the more true for single people over the age of 40, many of whom are divorced or widowed. Having been married before, they often have a better idea of the type of person they are looking for, and consequently may be more selective.
Shared interests are always a solid starting point, and the good news, as Jay points out in the article, is there is now an abundance of niche singles groups organized around common interests — from movie watching, to wine tasting, to rock climbing, to name but a few. The great thing is that participants are out having fun, doing something they enjoy — and if they happen to connect with someone on a more significant basis, all the better.
For those who do find Mr. or Mrs. Right and are looking to tie the knot, our guide to top west suburban wedding and reception venues on page 44 could be a helpful resource. From hotel ballrooms to historic mansions, to golf course clubhouses and more, there really is a variety of beautiful and distinctive settings for celebrating the big day.
As usual, we also have insightful stories on local residents of interest, including award-winning romance novelist Sonali Dev of Naperville (see Q&A on page 14), and the Kirschbaums, longtime owners of the popular bakery in Western Springs (page 16).
As always, we hope you enjoy this issue and thanks for being a reader! And if you haven’t already, don’t forget to cast your ballot (page 19 or online at www.westsuburbanliving.net) in our annual Best of the West reader poll, the results of which we will share with you in our upcoming March issue.Edit Module